AITA : Woman Seeks Advice on Dealing With Disrespectful Sister-In-Law, Quickly Discovers Her Fiancé Is the Root of the Problem

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    Font - Posted by u/Throw Rachocolates 14 hours ago AITA for refusing to invite my fiancé's sister to our wedding? 2
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    Font - My fiancé (28M) and I (27F) are getting married next year. His family is Spanish but all of them speak perfect English. I don't speak Spanish at all. When I visit his family, no one ever switches to English. They all always act like I am not there.
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    Font - They just don't make effort to include me in their conversations at all. I swallowed this for years and I learned to live with it. However, I can't stand how his little sister (27F) treats me. Here are some examples:
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    Font - 1. When we visit his family, she always asks my fiancé if they can spend time in 2 - to have some quality sibling time. Without me. Since I don't know anybody in Spain, it just means that they are going out for a whole day and I just stay alone with their parents (which are ignoring me). I cannot
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    Font - comprehend how people can treat their guests like that. I would never dream to tell my fiancé to stay in a room in my hometown because I need some quality time with my sister.
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    Font - 2. I hate the smell of cigarettes. My nose is sensitive and it just can't stand it. I never have problems with it in public - when I smell it, I just move to avoid standing next to a smoker. His sister is a smoker and she knows I hate the smell.
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    Font - She was asked many times to move her smoking elsewhere when I am present, however she always refused. There were times when we were eating a lunch, and she was smoking next to me - knowing it disturbs me a lot. When I wanted to
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    Font - leave the table for 5 mins to wait out the smoke, my fiancé was calling me rude. Also when I was refusing to sit down next to her - I was apparently being offensive.
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    Font - 3. We were planning a family trip. One day I was talking to my SO in English, when his sister comes between us and starts talking to my fiancé in Spanish - ignoring my presence completely. He told me that his sister came and asked him to
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    Font - not bring me to that family trip, that it will be better without me, and that I am not welcome there.I felt super disrespectful that someone can stand in front of me and say all these things in other language knowing I wouldn't understand.
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    Font - 4. There were many moments when I was having an English discussion with my fiancé, and his sister was just coming in and interrupting us without even "hi" towards me. She was just starting speaking in Spanish to my fiancé and I was just standing there.. feeling very unwelcome.
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    Font - 5. She advised my fiancé to break up with me many times. She was telling his whole family mean stuff about me. Apparently that I am jealous, toxic, etc. None of it is true. I was very hurt hearing it, but I get it. If she felt like it, she should inform her brother. But not supporting our relationship makes me not want to invite her to our wedding.
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    Font - 6. More subtle stuff but characters limit so.. Now we are preparing a guest list. I don't want to invite her. I know I won't have a good time on my own wedding if she's there. Things she was doing to me were subtle, but I always felt excluded and bad. AITA?
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    Font - mobyhead1 14 hr. ago edited 13 hr. agn ● Asshole Enthusiast [6] NTA You don't have a future SIL problem, nor a future in-laws problem. You have a fiancé problem!
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    Font - He should be asking family to include you in conversations. He should be asking his sister to keep away from you with her cigarettes. He should have your back. He doesn't. Put this relationship on hold, at the very least. Reconsider it carefully.
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    Font - mjcnbmex 9 hr. ago ● OP please find someone who treats you with respect. Your fiance and his family are not respecting you.
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    Font - Disastrous-Primary10 I live in Spain and it's not considered rude to smoke at 6 hr. ago the table here. The culture around smoking is very different from in the US. When I go out with coworkers, even at breakfast, if we are sitting at an outside table some of my coworkers will smoke right at the table with us while we eat.
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    Font - Deep-Ruin2786 · 12 hr. ago I'd avoid this marriage until he proves you are his priority. Otherwise you will be miserable.
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    Font - n0_sh1t_thank_you. 7 hr. ago This!!! When you marry someone, you marry the family. Would you want your new second family treating you like that for the whole time you are married?
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    Font - Easy_Floss 11 hr. ago Partassipant [1] Even with my one month girlfriends that did not speak my native language I made sure to tell my relatives that it was inappropriate to leave them out of the conversation.

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